Saturday, March 13 (Day 2): I love Saturdays and Sundays. I generally stay away from the office and I get to spend just about all day with my 6 year old son. He wears me out, but he is my world. Before he came along, I didn't realize you could love someone as much as I love that little guy. It amazes me that there was a time when I questioned whether I could ever love an adopted child as much as a biological child. Believe it or not, before Jean and I decided to try adoption, I really struggled with that question. Fortunately, a dear friend of ours (who is an adoptive parent herself) had the perfect response when I posed that question to her. She said: "The first time you see and hold your adopted baby in your hands, that baby will stop being your adopted baby and will just be your baby." Boy was she right! We were in the adoption process for a while and had some heartbreaking moments, but ultimately we were blessed to have Matthew come into our lives. I think all the time I spend with Matthew most Saturdays and Sundays in particular makes me realize how truly blessed we are to have Matthew. It also makes me realize that there are so many people out there who are trying to adopt and have not been so blessed. I decide that my gift today will be to send a card to a couple who has been in the adoption process for a while and who is struggling with the fact that they have not yet been chosen as adotive parents. I feel for them b/c I know how painful that process is to go through. We were in it for almost 2 years. In my card to them I tell them exactly what others told us as we were struggling through the process; "Keep the faith" and "Your baby is out there waiting for you, he or she just has to find you!" I hope they take my up on our offer to get together for dinner soon so that we can find out how they are doing and provide whatever support we can. I think they will. They have told us before that they love seeing Matthew b/c it reminds them that the pain and wait will be worth it in the end. They will be amazing parents when they are chosen. I hope it happens soon for them! I also decide to make a donation to an adoption financial assistance group. Not only is adoption a long process, it is also pretty expensive. Matthew has been such an incredible blessing. I want others to experience similar blessings!
- Jeff Hamilton
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